On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a tricky question from a listener who’s struggling to feel love for her daughter. Mismatched neurodivergence might be to blame… but what is a parent to do when they don’t feel connected with their kids? How can they work on translating irritation into love — and grappling with the guilt of not feeling like a good parent? 

We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now... And then, on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re venting (really, complaining) about the slog that is back-to-school shopping.

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Lucy’s check-in: Not a Sephora kid, just need some stuff

Elizabeth’s check-in: Safaris are just watching everything eat 24/7

Zak’s check-in: “You’re gonna have a bike accident”

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