298: My Dad Is a Pedophile | Feedback Friday

Jan 10, 2020

A listener grapples with the profound impact of a father's criminal behavior on familial ties while navigating personal challenges as a high-functioning autistic individual. The hosts delve into the emotional complexities of setting boundaries with toxic family dynamics and the importance of therapy in addressing childhood trauma. They also touch on career stagnation, offering valuable tech insights, and emphasize the significance of regular health check-ups for overall well-being.

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ADVICE

Repaying a Supportive Partner

Don't stay in a relationship out of obligation, it breeds resentment.
If you break up with someone who supported you financially, create a repayment plan.

ADVICE

Dealing with Family Dysfunction

Seek therapy to address personal issues before tackling family problems.
Have a plan, even a long-term one, to improve your situation.

ADVICE

Handling a Difficult Family Situation

Consider therapy, especially if past trauma exists.
You can distance yourself without dramatic pronouncements; prioritize your well-being.

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Your dad is a pedophile. He's taken naked pictures of kids, including one of your cousins on your mom's side, and posted them online. He's been caught by the police, but he's been let go on some kind of probation.

You don't know how to handle the situation. For some context, You're a high functioning autistic person. You're able to live on your own, take care of yourself, and hold down a full time job, but you have a lot of problems making and maintaining friendships and you have enough sensory issues that you don't like to leave your house any more than you need to.

On the one hand, it would be a great relief to you if you never had to see or hear from your parents again. On the other hand, the number of people in your support network is already quite small, and you wouldn't want to lose contact with your sister, who has very severe mental health problems and is still living at home. What should you do?

This is pretty dark and heavy territory, but we'll do our best to offer some real advice on this and much more in this Feedback Friday.

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