The Double Empathy Problem… and the Solution

In this episode of Creating Neurodiversity-Affirming Schools, Emily and Amanda explore the double empathy problem—a concept that challenges the assumption that neurodivergent individuals lack empathy and instead highlights how misunderstandings happen between different neurotypes. They share personal stories, real-world classroom scenarios, and strategies to help educators bridge the communication gap with their neurodivergent students.

Key topics include:

• The double empathy problem—what it is and why it matters in schools.

• How educators can shift from assuming misbehavior to seeking understanding.

• The difference between cognitive empathy (perspective-taking) and affective empathy (emotional connection).

• Why curiosity and asking the right questions can prevent conflict and improve student-teacher relationships.

• Strategies for making classroom environments more emotionally safe for neurodivergent students.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Double Empathy Problem (Damian Milton, 2012) 

• Neurowild by Em Hammond – Visual resources explaining neurodiversity concepts 

• Neurodiversity University Educator Hub: Join the Community

• Neurodiversity-Affirming Schools: Transforming Practices So All Students Feel Accepted and Supported - Order here