In this episode of the Get Loved Up podcast, Koya talks to Dr. Thema Bryant, President-Elect of the American Psychologist Association. Dr. Thema shares some ways to deal with distress and trauma effectively, particularly with the importance of being connected to your emotions. Dr. Thema believes that mental health awareness should go beyond the confines of psychologist's clinics and so has spent considerable time and effort building a community through social media.

As a survivor herself, Dr. Thema talks about dealing with sexual assault, and how men and society in general can do better with regards to sexual relations.

GUEST BIO

Dr. Thema Bryant is the president-elect of the American Psychological Association, the leading scientific and professional organization representing psychology with more than 120,000 members (apa.org). She is host of the Homecoming podcast and author of the new book Homecoming: Overcome fear and trauma to reclaim your whole authentic self.

Connect with Dr. Thema and follow her work through the links below:

Website: https://drthema.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/drthema
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drthema
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Homecoming-Overcome-Trauma-Reclaim-Authentic/dp/059341831X

HIGHLIGHTS

07:09 Tools to help people 'come home' to themselves

15:18 Love isn't usually enough in the day-to-day

20:05 The importance of spirituality to our wellness

27:37 Building a community and life as an entrepreneur

33:29 Sincere curiosity vs being argumentative

35:42 Taking breaks is crucial for everyone

41:39 'Coming home' from sexual assault

46:37 Men need to unlearn a lot of things

50:03 Sex always needs to be consensual, no gray areas

QUOTES

07:16 Dr. Thema: "To come home to myself is to tell myself the truth and then live based on that truth, and that requires me being able to know how I feel. Many of us are disconnected from our own emotions."

15:16 Dr. Thema: "People assume that if you love each other that's gonna be enough. I love you and you love me, that's love conquers all. But when we talk about the day-to-day, along with that love, you're dealing with a personality."

35:55 Dr. Thema: "It's a marathon, not a sprint. We have to pace ourselves for the change we want to see in the world or in your personal life. For it to be sustainable, I cannot empty myself out. I cannot operate on fumes."

40:22 Dr. Thema: "Therapy is not for us to tell people what to do. Therapy is for you to come home to yourself so that you can then operate in clarity."

49:55 Koya: "The best sex happens when both people are like yes absolutely let's go. Everything else is a gray area and can be very harmful eventually to both people."

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