The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

278: Boundaries in Marriage Not Working? Do This Instead!

Mar 18, 2025
Ever wondered why setting boundaries in marriage sometimes backfires? Discover how one woman transformed her relationship by ditching rigid rules for three simple phrases that encourage affection and cooperation. Learn about the power of positive communication and how it creates a more loving dynamic at home. Personal anecdotes illuminate the journey towards deeper connection and tenderness, proving that intimacy can flourish when you express desires more kindly instead of demanding change.
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ANECDOTE

Boundaries Created Distance

  • Laura Doyle shared her experience of setting boundaries that backfired and created distance in her marriage.
  • She realized she was teaching her husband to be defensive and tune her out.
ADVICE

Use Magic Cheat Phrases

  • Use three magic cheat phrases instead of boundaries to get better response and connection.
  • Say "ouch," "I can't," or express what you'd love to inspire affection and cooperation.
ANECDOTE

Saying "Ouch" Instead of Criticism

  • Laura used to say "you can't talk to me that way," but it made her husband defensive.
  • Now she says "ouch" when hurt, which invites tenderness and quick apologies.
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