Why Your Good Intentions Are Screwing Things Up: The Power of Saying Less and Listening More

In Episode 62 of the Live Into Your Brilliance podcast, Al and Bilos tackle a common but overlooked truth: your well-meaning attempts to help might be doing more harm than good. This episode digs into the uncomfortable reality that sometimes our best intentions can create unintended consequences. Al and Bilos explore why trying to fix others’ problems often backfires and how practicing deep listening can be the real game-changer in your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Good Intentions, Bad Outcomes: Al and Bilos reveal how our desire to comfort and support often turns into a mission to fix things, which can leave the people we care about feeling unheard and misunderstood.
• The Empathy Trap: The duo exposes the trap of superficial empathy—when we think we’re connecting but are really just projecting our discomfort onto others.
• Shut Up and Listen: Learn why the most powerful thing you can do is often the hardest—saying less, listening more, and trusting that silence can be more supportive than words.
• What Do You Really Know? Al and Bilos challenge listeners to drop the assumption that they know what someone else needs, and instead ask, "What do you need?"—a question that can transform your approach to relationships.
• Energy Matters: Discover how the energy you bring to any interaction affects its outcome, and why being present is more important than finding the perfect thing to say.

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