Focus on the Family with Jim Daly How Reframing Your Perspective Can Transform Your Marriage
Oct 27, 2025
Join Rhonda Stoppe, a pastor's wife and author with over 30 years of experience, as she shares insights on transforming marriages through perspective shifts. She discusses how misinterpreting motives can escalate conflicts and emphasizes the value of older mentors in nurturing relationships. Rhonda offers practical advice on maintaining intimacy, rekindling romance, and overcoming hardships. Through anecdotes and biblical principles, she encourages couples to prioritize connection and legacy, reminding us that grace is the key to a thriving marriage.
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Peanut Butter Toast Revelation
- Rhonda described sobbing over peanut butter toast crumbs that made her feel unseen while her husband thought he was being helpful.
- She realized she had assigned wrong motives and that the issue wasn't the issue, it was her interpretation.
Meet Different Longings With Empathy
- Do recognize that God-designed longings differ: men often seek physical intimacy while women often seek emotional connection.
- Try meeting his vulnerability with empathy and coach him on what romance looks like in your season.
Expectation Records Erode Affection
- Falling out of love often starts with unmet expectations and a growing 'record of wrong'.
- Love endures and 'believes the best,' so rehearsing negatives erodes affection the same way rehearsing positives built it.
