How A 'Fear List' Can Change Your Life: Stop Self-Rejecting & Unlock Confidence

Feb 26, 2025

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What would you do if failure was impossible? What's something you've always wanted to do, but never find "the right time"? To answer these questions, I started one little list in January, and it has completely changed my life.

We all know about bucket lists — but what if the real game-changer isn’t chasing what excites you, but confronting what scares you? Enter: The Fear List.

Fear has been in the driver's seat of my life for too long, and I realized during my January meltdown, that my avoidance of discomfort and rejection were directly impacting my happiness and growth. Most of the things I was depressed about in my life could be traced to fear-based avoidance and inaction. That's why I created the fear list — it helps you rewire your brain to stop self-rejecting before you even try. Think of it like exposure therapy... this list of things will create proof that you can do scary things, and the more small uncomfortable things you do, the less scary the big things will feel.

This episode is all about breaking out of fear-based paralysis and taking action on the things that hold you back. If you’ve been feeling stuck, playing small, or letting fear dictate your choices—this is your sign to flip the script.

In this episode, I cover:
✅ How my fear has kept me stuck in life, love, and career

✅ The connection between fear, anxiety, and perfectionism

✅ Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and why some of us with ADHD/neurodivergence fear rejection more

✅ The power of exposure therapy and why courage is a muscle

✅ How to create your own Fear List to build confidence, resilience, and momentum

✅ Questions that will help you brainstorm your fear list

✅ Getting honest with yourself about the stories you’re telling yourself

✅ Easy examples of things you can include on your fear list

✅ What’s on my list, and the wins I’ve already tackled (LITERALLY LIFE-CHANGING)

✅ Why staying accountable and tracking your progress gamifies fear and makes it fun

Remember: "The risk you’re afraid to take, could be the one that changes your entire life."

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