Is Tough Feedback Dead? - [Glue Guys, EP.38]

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May 15, 2025

The discussion dives into the intricacies of giving and receiving tough feedback, featuring memorable coaching moments. Personal stories highlight the impact of tough love in sports and its role in fostering resilience. The hosts explore the balance between high standards and supportive parenting, introducing the idea of 'productive paranoia' for empowering children. They reflect on the influence of upbringing on feedback reception and the ethical challenges of negotiations, concluding with insights on Rory McIlroy's recent victory.

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ANECDOTE

Alex's Fierce Football Coaching Experience

Alex Smith recalls his harshest football coaching moment during his first college bowl game with Dan Mullen.
Mullen berated him loudly for repeatedly failing to recognize and adjust to an unexpected defensive corner blitz.

ANECDOTE

Shane's Memorable Coach Rebukes

Shane Battier shares two memorable coach reprimands: a harsh no-showboating warning in 7th grade football and a tough coaching raid from Coach K after a big loss.
The Coach K encounter motivated him profoundly to improve and avoid criticism.

INSIGHT

Leaders Mix Calm With Intensity

Great leaders often balance calm public demeanor with fierce private intensity when giving tough feedback.
They choose appropriate moments to deliver honest, direct messages to push people toward excellence.

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In this candid episode of Glue Guys, Alex, Shane, and Ravi discuss the art of giving and receiving tough feedback. The trio share their most memorable "chew-out" stories from their athletic careers, debate the balance between demanding excellence and offering support, and explore how to create "productive paranoia" in their children. The conversation extends to parenting challenges, maintaining high standards, and concludes with reflections on Rory McIlroy's Masters victory.

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Show Notes:

(00:00:00) Welcome to Glue Guys

(00:01:38) Alex's Biggest Chew Out Story

(00:08:02) Shane's Biggest Chew Out Story

(00:15:48) Robby's Greatest Tongue Lashing

(00:24:23) Productive Paranoia and Leadership

(00:30:37) Instilling Productive Paranoia in Kids

(00:31:18) The Challenge of Letting Kids Fail

(00:32:31) Encouraging Healthy Competition

(00:35:23) Balancing Love, Respect, and Expectations

(00:38:56) Handling Criticism and Tough Coaches

(00:47:29) The Pressure of High Standards

(00:54:19) Parental Support and Pressure

(00:59:34) The Ride Home: A Crucial Moment