Penny Wincer: How to Care Without Burning Out

Society would grind to a halt without the work done by unpaid carers - yet they are too often left to feel invisible, unsupported and alone. 

In this episode, Andrew talks to PENNY WINCER, the author of Tender: The Imperfect Art of Caring, about how to provide care for loved ones without burning out yourself. 

Penny shares her deeply personal story of caring for her mother, who lived with mental illness, and later for her autistic son. She sheds light on the complexity of care—the beauty, the exhaustion, and the personal costs. 

Andrew and Penny discuss:

• Asking for help
• Dealing with isolation 
• How being a “young carer” can shape adult relationships
• The importance of self-compassion.

Penny Wincer is a Melbourne born, London dwelling, author and non-fiction writing coach.  She has written for Red Magazine, iPaper, BBC Radio 4 and The Telegraph. Penny’s first book Tender  was published by Coronet Books in 2020. Her second non-fiction book, Home Matters, was published in August 2024. 

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Follow Up

Attend Andrew's new men's retreat, Reconnect With Yourself, this autumn in the Brandenberg countryside near Berlin 

Get Andrew’s free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things 

Read Penny Wincer’s book Tender: The Imperfect Art of Caring, and her latest book, Home Matters

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