Mind Ya Mental Podcast Why Respect Beats Obedience in Parenting
Oct 14, 2025
Explore the transformational shift from obedience to respect in parenting. Discover how historical trauma influences parenting practices in Black families. Learn actionable strategies for modeling emotional regulation and accountability to foster strong relationships. Understand the importance of teaching consent and encouraging children to express themselves. Raquel emphasizes prioritizing a child's feelings over societal expectations, urging parents to embrace their own growth while breaking harmful cycles.
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Regulate And Repeat
- Treat children as humans who make mistakes and need co-regulation.
- Repeat instructions patiently and model regulation rather than expecting perfect self-control.
Adultification And Dehumanization
- Black children are often adultified, which justifies harsher treatment and dehumanization.
- Martin highlights how dehumanization perpetuates disciplinary norms across generations.
Choose Respectful Parenting
- Choose the harder path of respectful parenting rather than easy fear-based control.
- Slow down, regulate yourself, and respond with conversation instead of yelling.