In the Trenches The Valentine's Day Special
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Feb 14, 2025 Explore the intriguing history of romance, diving into the complexities of marriage and the dynamics that evolve over time. Discover the tragic tale of Tristan and Isolt and its lasting impact on romantic literature. Delve into the paradoxes of love versus the stability of marriage, while examining modern societal expectations. Gain insights on restoring a healthy perspective on relationships and the importance of realistic expectations in contemporary romance.
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Youthful Longing Versus Marital Purpose
- Modern romance often prioritizes youthful feeling over marriage's stability and productivity.
- Joshua Gibbs argues that longing for marriage before sex (like in "Wouldn't It Be Nice") is noble and social-good oriented.
Dating Is Self-Focused Validation
- Dating focuses on self-validation through reciprocal praise and pleasurable activities.
- Gibbs says dating relationships largely serve the daters and return little to the community.
Marriage Is Not Just Enhanced Dating
- Many treat marriage as an elevated form of dating that permits sex and cohabitation.
- Gibbs contends this view misconstrues marriage's telos and reduces it to self-gratification.
