First Peter, Part 3: Relationships — His Lead, Her Need (1/2)

His Lead, Her Need, Part 1- 1 Peter 3:1-6

1 Peter 3:1-2, Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

1) In relationships, humility eliminates rivalry. Mutual submission eliminates competition and fighting for position. The key in marriage is mutual submission (Ephesians 5:21).

In marriage, God’s desire is for the two to “become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The husband is the “head” (Ephesians 5:22-24); the wife is the “body” (Ephesians 5:25-28).

Mutual submission is when the wife is submitting to her husband’s lead, and the husband is submitting to his wife’s need. His Lead, Her Need.

1 Peter 3:3-4, Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel — rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

2) Men may fall in love with a woman because of her outer beauty, but they stay in love with a woman because of her inner beauty – humility. Ladies, what attracts a man is not what keeps a man!

1 Peter 3:5-6, For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

3) God knows one of man’s deepest needs is for ADMIRATION, and a woman’s is for AFFECTION.Ephesians 5:33, “Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” 

The Marriage Cycle to “keep that lovin’ feelin’”

The wife gives ADMIRATION

The husband gives AFFECTION