It's Been a Minute Is he a good guy? Or is he manipulating you?
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Sep 10, 2025 James Factora, a staff writer at Them, dives into the phenomenon of the 'performative male,' discussing how these men may seem progressive but often embody gender manipulation. Alongside Manny Fidel, they dissect the nuances between authenticity and performance in modern masculinity. The conversation reveals how societal expectations shape male identity today and critiques the pressures of gender policing. They also highlight the importance of non-judgmental support in navigating evolving perceptions of gender identity.
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Defining The Performative Male
- The "performative male" is a memefied figure who adopts aesthetics and interests thought to appeal to progressive women.
- James Factora argues this persona often mirrors metrosexual repackaging rather than a novel identity.
Authenticity Versus Suspicion
- Critics often assume behaviors like drinking matcha or painting nails are manipulative when exhibited by men.
- James Factora warns that labeling such acts as tactics risks policing harmless gender expression.
Host's Personal Example
- Manny Fidel notes he personally reads at bars and drinks matcha but insists it's not performative for him.
- He uses his own habits to question broad accusations of manipulation.
