The Jordan Harbinger Show 462: Linda Carroll | Unlocking Lasting Love Skills
Jan 28, 2021
Linda Carroll, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author, shares her expertise on building lasting love. She emphasizes that love is a skill that can be developed rather than just a feeling. Carroll discusses the true roots of relationship conflicts, suggesting they often stem from deeper issues. She introduces the concept of the Woodpecker Syndrome and critiques common clichés about love. Her insights encourage self-awareness and emotional accountability, guiding listeners to break free from unhealthy patterns in their relationships.
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Love vs. Loving
- Love is a fleeting feeling, while loving is a skillset requiring practice.
- Loving involves consistent kindness and repair, especially during disagreements.
Spinach Analogy
- Arguments often escalate beyond the initial issue, like forgetting spinach.
- Unresolved issues accumulate, creating bigger conflicts over minor triggers.
Woodpecker Syndrome
- The "Woodpecker Syndrome" involves dwelling on past grievances and building cases against partners.
- Mindfulness helps recognize this pattern, promoting quicker repairs and preventing escalation.
