618: It’s Not What You Think… The Truth About Motherhood in 2022

We set mothers up to fail in this pandemic.

For decades before the pandemic began, we told moms they could and should DO IT ALL. While the intent was to give women permission to do all the things men do - we screwed this one up. Big time. Instead of giving moms the support they need (read: childcare and household support), we let them just keep adding to their plates in an effort to prove they can “do it all”.  

After decades of piling on all the things and 2 years of a global pandemic, moms are breaking under the pressure and no one is talking about it. 

I routinely hear moms say things like:

“I just need to get through this day/week/season.”

“I know I have it better than others so I really don’t want to complain.”

“It’s not that bad. I’m just a little tired. I can push through.”

But, the reality is… for almost 700 days now:

• You haven’t had a break
• Society hasn’t acknowledged the massive load you’ve carried for the last 2 years (or decades before that)
• There is no end and no relief in sight
• Social media makes it look like everyone else is faring just fabulously, so you really should figure your shit out
• There are no solutions being presented that make anything easier - just temporary workarounds that might work for a hot second until the next dumpster fire

The truth is…

• You don’t need to push harder
• You don’t need to try to keep up
• You don’t pretend this isn’t hard as hell
• You don’t need to ignore or negate the impact of the last 2 years - even if you’ve “had it better than others”

What you really need is likely:

• To be and acknowledged as someone who has (perhaps single handedly) kept the world spinning for an entire household
• To recognize that you have endured Trauma and/or trauma over the last 2 years in the form of loss, grief, and chronic stress and it’s taken a toll on your nervous system and mental health
• Connection and camaraderie with women who can hold you, hear you, learn with you and laugh with you
• FUN

In this episode, I talk you through how to get past what you’ve been fed in order to get WHAT YOU NEED.  

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