The Quote of the Day Show | Daily Motivational Talks 2185 | Anthony de Mello: “You Don’t Have to Impress Anyone Anymore.”
May 22, 2025
Anthony de Mello, a Jesuit priest and psychotherapist renowned for his spiritual teachings, dives into the illusion of needing approval. He articulates how this addiction strips away our freedom and authenticity, urging listeners to embrace their true selves. De Mello explores the connection between solitude and genuine love, highlighting the beauty found when we are content within ourselves. He passionately presents self-acceptance as a key to true happiness, challenging social pressures that undermine personal connections.
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Addiction to Approval is Control
- We are born addicted to the "drug" of approval, craving appreciation and praise.
- This addiction lets society control us like robots, affecting freedom and authentic living.
Childhood Conditioning Anecdote
- A 3-year-old girl mistook applause for laughter and ran away scared.
- This shows how early we're conditioned to link approval with pain and fear.
Approval Need Blocks True Love
- Needing approval destroys our ability to love others authentically.
- We see people as threats or supports to our need for approval, not as individuals.