#17 How Do I Meet Women If I Don’t Want To Use Dating Apps?: Listener Question from Graham, 56
Sep 8, 2023
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Learn alternative ways to meet women without using dating apps by making the most out of everyday moments, increasing interactions, and starting conversations based on shared interests. The host shares specific suggestions on how to have more ordinary everyday moments with potential romantic partners and discusses strategies for meeting women in organic environments.
Focus on creating ordinary everyday moments to meet single women outside of dating apps.
Engage in small interactions and genuine conversations to increase opportunities for connections outside of dating apps.
Deep dives
Creating Ordinary Everyday Moments with Other Humans
To meet single women in the world, it's important to focus on creating ordinary everyday moments with other humans. This is especially relevant for later daters who have a longer history of organic relationships outside of dating apps. Instead of seeking stereotypical places to meet women, it's crucial to ask how to have more ordinary interactions. The transition from device to meeting in person can be challenging, often leading to stilted encounters in restaurants. Increasing the number of interactions in everyday settings, such as the gym or workplace, is key. By initiating genuine conversations and interactions, there is a higher likelihood of developing organic and meaningful connections.
Finding Human Moments in Day-to-Day Activities
Meeting people outside of dating apps requires actively seeking human moments in day-to-day activities. By engaging in small interactions like holding a door open, asking about someone's shopping choices, or seeking recommendations, opportunities for connection arise. It's important to approach these interactions with genuine interest and avoid fake behavior. Rather than googling for answers, taking the time to engage in conversations establishes a starting point for meaningful relationships. While the appeal of organic connections is understood, cautiously venturing into dating apps can offer additional opportunities while preserving the desire for genuine interactions.
Reevaluating the Concept of Organic in Dating
The concept of 'organic' in dating should be reevaluated to encompass a broader understanding of relationships formed through different means. While relationships that begin organically without dating apps have a distinct texture, lasting connections can still be established through online platforms. It is crucial to remember that the starting point of a relationship does not diminish its potential. Seeking environments that provide some organic texture, apart from traditional settings like restaurants and coffee shops, can help foster the desired atmosphere for meeting people. Ultimately, the organic nature of human connections can be found in various settings, irrespective of the initial encounter.
Why you should listen to this episode: The idea of meeting people outside of the apps is being asked more and more while it feels like there are fewer and fewer options for it. But as Later Daters you might actually have the skill and experience to be less reliant on the apps.
Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.
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The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.
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