Connectfulness Practice Inherited Family Trauma with Mark Wolynn
Have you ever said something like “I’m just wired this way” in response to someone asking why you can’t just relax and go with the flow more? Maybe you’re scared of certain smells, places, uniforms, noises and other common things found in everyday life without knowing where you developed that particular aversion. As we discussed in our last episode, our brains hold onto the negative experiences for survival -- they become a reference guide to navigating life. But what if we don’t know why we’re reacting negatively towards the mere thought of these scenarios?
Recently, I sat down with Mark Wolynn and dove into the topic of inherited family trauma and the science behind epigenetics. You won’t want to miss this discussion as I am sure you’ll be just as fascinated as I was with what Mark shares in regards to where our fears and stress triggers come from and what we can do about breaking the pattern for ourselves and loved ones.
Mark Wolynn is the director of the Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco. He is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. His book It Didn't Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology, and has been translated into 15 languages.
In this episode, Mark and I discuss:
- What happens during a trauma.
- What it means to have inherited family trauma.
- What an inherited stress response is.
- How we can understand what, if any, stress response or trauma response are actually really our own.
- How our own language can affect our personal body response to trauma.
- Breaking down verbal and nonverbal trauma languages into what Mark calls Core Languages.
- How the relationship between ourselves and our parents affect our current relationships.
- The scientific research and studies behind inherited family trauma.
- What an epigenetic tag is & how we can benefit from epigenetic changes.
- “Trigger ages” and “event triggers” that may shed light on your own triggers.
- What this means for people who were adopted and do not have access to their family of origin’s medical/health records.
- How brain development is impacted starting in utero and grows throughout childhood.
- How the amygdala, prefrontal cortex & hippocampus develop & process trauma and what that means for us.
- How we can heal as person(s) suffering from inherited family trauma.
- Tips on how to break the cycle of inherited family trauma.
- Combining our breath with sensation and awareness, we can then weave in meaning and are able to integrate more positive experiences.
- 70% of couples problems have nothing to do with partners.
- The work of opening is YOUR responsibility.
Resources:
Find out more about Mark’s work at https://www.markwolynn.com
Mark’s Book: It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
Read Rebecca’s personal story “Liberation: a love story (and a reckoning)” on how inherited family trauma has showed up in her life, recently published on Longreads.com!
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