Tripp Lanier, author, coach, and host of The New Man podcast, discusses the fear of failure, shifting consciousness around masculinity, living beyond parental influence, and uncovering hidden commitments. He emphasizes the importance of practice, experience, and gaining confidence, and explores the power of momentum and discovering purpose. Tripp encourages listeners to embrace personal growth, pursue fulfilling experiences, and choose supportive partners.
Aligning our goals with our deeper values and purpose leads to true fulfillment.
Shifting our focus from achieving specific outcomes to valuing the experiences we desire brings satisfaction in the present moment.
Deep dives
Understanding the Inner Motivations
Many of our goals and dreams are driven by wounded parts of ourselves, seeking validation or proving others wrong. It is important to identify and examine these motivations to avoid emptiness and dissatisfaction. By understanding who is behind our desires and what we truly need, we can align ourselves with deeper values, purpose, and experiences.
Shifting Focus from Outcome to Experience
Goals often focus on achieving specific outcomes, such as material possessions or status. However, true fulfillment comes from the experiences and feelings associated with those outcomes. Shifting our focus to the experiences we desire, like freedom, aliveness, love, and peace of mind, allows us to appreciate the journey and find satisfaction in the present moment.
Differentiating Attention from Love
While attention can provide instant gratification and a sense of importance, it is often short-lived and leaves us constantly seeking more. Love, on the other hand, is nourishing and fulfilling, providing a deep sense of connection and wholeness. Recognizing the difference between attention and love can help us shift our focus to what truly matters in our relationships and lives.
Understanding Commitment and Fear
The fear of commitment often stems from deeper commitments to things like comfort, safety, or self-identity. By understanding and addressing these underlying commitments, we can alleviate fears and concerns. Communicating openly with our partners and finding ways to reduce risks or discomfort can help us move forward in relationships with greater clarity and fulfillment.
Author, coach, and host of The New Man podcast, Tripp Lanier joins Luke to delve into the importance of examining our fears, desires, and motivations. They discuss the role of children in teaching adults and the fear of failure that often holds people back from pursuing their goals. Tripp emphasizes the importance of practicing knowledge rather than just acquiring it, the difference between experience and outcome, and moving away from the rat race mentality towards a more fulfilling life. Luke and Tripp also explore relationships and the importance of understanding one's desires, examining how we can actively choose our partners every day.
Today on Crazy Wisdom:
Valuable lessons children teach us about personal growth
Overcoming fear of failure to reach our potential
Importance of putting knowledge into practice
Shift in attitudes toward personal growth among men
Finding fulfillment through experiences, not outcomes