Ever wanted to get inside the mind of a couples therapist and ask questions? Well, in today's episode, I took full advantage of having the great couples therapist, Dr. Bruce Chalmer on and I asked some burning questions for you like:

How to get your partner to go to therapy when they don't want to
What's the first thing you would do if you were working with a couple with jealousy in the relationship
Why couples get it wrong when they say their biggest issue is communication

Bruce shares the idea that couples often choose stability over intimacy and this is what he calls the "death spiral" of passion in a relationship. I loved this topic as it just brings to light how often we push away our true authentic self because we are too afraid of what someone else, in this case our partner, might think.

He also compares couples therapy to improv so you'll have to tune in to hear why.

00:02 Introduction and Guest Presentation

00:42 Overcoming Reluctance to Attend Couples Therapy

04:03 Choosing the Right Therapist: A Discussion

05:43 Communication vs. Content: A New Perspective

07:51 Understanding Jealousy in Relationships

10:17 The Role of Attraction in Relationships

17:00 The Death Spiral for Passion: Stability vs. Intimacy

20:50 Restoring Intimacy in Relationships

20:54 Dealing with Jealousy and Insecurity

21:36 Seeking Reassurance and Self-Validation

22:43 Understanding the Value of Your Partner

24:41 The Role of Fathers in a Daughter's Life

25:40 Couples Therapy and Improv Comedy

31:14 Navigating Arguments in Relationships

32:06 The Magic Key to Relationship Problems

34:20 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

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