Rhythms for Life Beyond the Soulmate Myth: Building Marriages That Last with Dr. Brad Wilcox
May 21, 2025
Dr. Brad Wilcox, a prominent sociologist and director of the National Marriage Project, explores the enduring relevance of marriage in modern society. He challenges the 'soulmate myth' and other misconceptions, presenting data that shows married individuals enjoy greater happiness and financial benefits. Dr. Wilcox discusses how 'expressive individualism' has impacted marriage since the 1970s and offers practical advice for young adults considering marriage. He emphasizes the importance of building a strong friendship and shared values before tying the knot.
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Marriage As A Civilizational Keystone
- Marriage functions as a keystone institution that connects adults to children and stabilizes communities.
- Declines in marriage link to deaths of despair, lower upward mobility, and reduced national happiness.
From The Me Decade To Family-First
- The rise of expressive individualism since the 1970s prioritized personal fulfillment over family commitments.
- A family-first ethic that wills the good of others often yields more stable and happier marriages.
Marriage Correlates With Greater Flourishing
- Contrary to popular narratives, married people—especially married mothers—tend to have better financial and emotional outcomes.
- Both men and women generally flourish more financially and emotionally when married with kids.
