"My relationship structure now is significantly less hierarchical than it was when my partner and I came back to polyamory with one another."

"Dangling possibilities for years is just so much worse than admitting 'this is a thing that I cannot offer."

Laura and Amy discuss the practical applications of hierarchy - whether strictly applied or tacitly existing, and ways that it can be both positive and negative depending on treatment, in this week's episode. They also make some commentary on the most common issues they see brought up online in large polyam groups and the commonalities of those.

Amy Norton is a sex writer who can be found talking about polyamory on Twitter @AmyisPolyam.