Elevate with Tyler Chesser - The Real Estate Podcast for Investing, Mindset and Personal Development E287 Dr. Benjamin Hardy - Transform Your Life Through Who Not How, Elevate Your Investment Performance by Focusing On The Gain and Create the Best Version of You by Being Your Future Self Now
As investors, entrepreneurs, or leaders of our businesses, we need to be at our best to achieve our goals and reach success. Transforming our lives, elevating our performance, and creating the best version of ourselves can help us overcome challenges and make the most of opportunities. We can improve decision-making, increase productivity, have better relationships, and enhance our overall well-being and growth. In short, we become more successful, happier, and fulfilled individuals. But how can we do all this?
We are fortunate today to have the world’s leading expert on the psychology of entrepreneurial leadership and exponential growth, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, to help us process and think about these ideas through an in-depth discussion of his books. We delve into the concept behind Dr. Hardy's bestselling book "Who Not How" and how investors and entrepreneurs can make it work to their advantage. Dr. Hardy also shares insights from his book "The Gap and The Gain" and explains why successful people focus on the gain, while unsuccessful people focus on the gap. We also discuss key points in his latest book "Be Your Future Self Now" and why imagining the person we want to be and then "being" that person now is the key to self-transformation. Finally, Dr. Hardy also shares the fascinating story of how he became immersed in his chosen field of psychology and the key relationships that have played crucial roles in his journey. Get ready to be inspired and motivated to reach your full potential!
Key Points from This Episode:
- Dr. Hardy talks about his background and upbringing.
- How did Dr. Hardy become immersed in the psychology of high performance and individual transformation?
- Dr. Hardy reflects on some key relationships that have played crucial roles in his journey toward achieving his goals and helped catalyze his growth and progress.
- What were the circumstances that led to the relationships with Joe Polish and with Dan Sullivan?
- Dr. Hardy discusses the key concepts behind “Who Not How”, the bestselling book he co-authored with Dan Sullivan, and offers advice on how investors and entrepreneurs can make it work to their advantage.
- More tips on how to retrain the brain to unleash the ability to ask smarter questions such as “who can do this for me?” instead of “how can I do this?”
- What are the key points in the book “ The Gap and The Gain” that Dr. Hardy co-authored with Dan Sullivan?
- Why do the unsuccessful focus on the gap while the successful focus on the gain and become increasingly successful at achieving their biggest goals?
- How the feeling of success and the recognition of wins, however small, contribute to improvement in performance and achievement of better outcomes
- Dr. Hardy discusses his recent book “Be Your Future Self Now” which focuses on “being” rather than “becoming”.
- Dr. Hardy asserts that imagining the person that we want to be and then being that person now is key to self-transformation.
- Why our imagined future, not our past, should direct our behavior and why it is important to set measurable goals now.
- Dr. Hardy answers the Rare Air Questionnaire.
Tweetables:
“You’ve got to actually grow an audience first before you can write books.”
"When the student is ready, the teacher appears."
“Don't worry so much about what's next, crush what's right in front of you.”
“You can get anything you want in life by helping the right people get what they want.” - Zig Ziglar
“Develop real, meaningful, transformational relationships that last for a long time. You're not just here to get a quick win.”
“Willpower depletes if you make more and more decisions.”
“By just getting the Whos and freeing your mind and being in flow and doing higher value activities, you're already going to be making way more money.”
“You can't do it all yourself. There are people who are fundamentally better at things than you and you'd be better off trusting other people.”
“I don't look at whos just as people that I can hire. I look at whos as people that I can collaborate with, people that I can team with.”
“If you're spending more of your time on things you absolutely love that are higher and higher value then you're in the right spot, you're in that 20% that really matters.”
“Things that are becoming impossible on your own become very possible with the right whos.”
“Rather than comparing, competing, and trying to beat other people, compare and compete with your former self.”
“The gain is about gaining from your own experiences, valuing your own experiences, transforming your own experiences into gains.”
“When you reach a place of a healthy relationship with yourself, you're freed from a lot of the unhealthy needing or trying to prove yourself.”
“Having clear, specific goals allows you to have a clear and specific path forward. The quality of your path forward is based on the specificity of where you're going.”
“Everything you're doing right now is based on the future that you're most committed to.”
Links Mentioned:
Dr. Benjamin Hardy: website and books
Be Your Future Self Now by Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Dr. Benjamin Hardy's YouTube channel
TED Talks by Dr. Benjamin Hardy
It's Not How Good You Are, It's How Good You Want to Be by Paul Arden
As A Man Thinketh by James Allen
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Peaks and Valleys: Making Good And Bad Times Work For You--At Work And In Life by Spencer Johnson
Go For No: Yes Is The Destination. No Is How To Get There by Richard Fenton & Andrea Waltz
Catching the Big Fish: Meditation, Consciousness, and Creativity by David Lynch
About Dr. Benjamin HardyDr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and is the world’s leading expert on the psychology of entrepreneurial leadership and exponential growth. His Ph.D. research focused on entrepreneurial courage and transformational leadership. Before completing his Ph.D., his blogs were read by over 100 million people, he published his first major book Willpower Doesn’t Work, and he was running a 7-figure online training business. Since finishing his Ph.D. in 2019, Dr. Hardy has published 5 additional books, including three co-authored with the legendary entrepreneurial coach, Dan Sullivan. His books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies and he is a sought-after teacher and speaker at corporate and entrepreneurial events as well as Fortune 500 companies. He and his wife Lauren are the parents of six kids and live in Orlando, Florida.