Dealing with Feeling Gaslighting in Relationships and How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself with Dr. Robin Stern
Gaslighting is not just an argument. It is a slow erosion of identity.
Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with his longtime friend and colleague Dr. Robin Stern to unpack The Gaslight Effect, how anxiety fuels both the gaslighter and the gaslightee, and what it takes to rebuild self-trust. They explore how people don't lose their reality overnight. They lose it in inches, one second-guess at a time.
In this conversation:
- What gaslighting really is and why it is so disorienting
- The three stages of The Gaslight Effect: disbelief, defense, depression
- That first "maybe it wasn't that bad" moment, and why it matters
- How fear of being "the bad one" keeps the cycle going
- How to start rebuilding self-trust after months or years of doubt
About the guest:
Dr. Robin Stern is a psychoanalyst and the Senior Advisor to the Director at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect, the Recovery Guide of the same name, the host of The Gaslight Effect podcast and a leading voice on gaslighting and self-trust.
Connect with Marc Brackett:
Website: https://robinstern.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/dr.robinstern
Facebook: https://facebook.com/drrobinstern
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a
Resources:
The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide
Connect with Marc Brackett:
Website: https://marcbrackett.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett
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Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett
Dr. Marc Brackett's Books
Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.
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