I'm secure, now what? Discussing having a secure attachment style with Annabelle Evangeline

“That trauma made it possible for me to take a step out of the business that I had created for myself in my life and grow in ways that I wouldn’t have been able to. I always try to have a growth mindset and appreciate all circumstances in this life.” -Annabelle Evangeline

Annabelle Evangeline is back for another episode! All the way back in episode 19, Sophie and Annabelle shared their journey of moving from an avoidant or anxious attachment style to a secure attachment style. A lot has happened since the last episode in 2018 for these two, with many ups and downs, including trauma therapy and healing, death of loved ones, ending of old relationships and starting new relationships. In this episode, they openly share the lessons they’ve learned along the way and focus more on what having a secure and healthy attachment style actually looks like in practice, with plenty of real-life examples.

A few highlights from the conversation:
 -What it was like for both of them actually entering a new relationship after moving from avoidant or anxious to secure attachment styles
 -How they’ve become more aware of their triggers in the moment and how they deal with it in a healthy way
 -The most helpful responses from their partners when they are in a triggered state
 -What it was like for Sophie to enter a new relationship while also beginning trauma therapy

“If they empower you to love yourself better, that’s a green flag rather than a red flag.” -Sophie

Annabelle is a Los Angeles based writer and entrepreneur who believes that the key to unlocking life’s purpose is by living vulnerably, practicing creativity, and embracing community. 

She is the author of Into the Darkness: A Workbook for Trauma Survivors which was created from her own experience with mental health and sexual trauma. She writes a blog that she is turning into a book called "Letters To My Little Sisters" through which she shares her experiences in hopes to help other women learn from her journey.

For full show notes: https://www.loveintently.com/blog/what-does-a-secure-relationship-look-like-annabelle-evangeline

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