

Downstream: Why Are So Many People Lonely? w/ Shon Faye
Feb 3, 2025
Shon Faye, author of 'The Transgender Issue' and 'Love in Exile,' joins Ash Sarkar to tackle the complexities of love in today's world. They explore how societal norms have transformed marriage and relationships from past generations to now. Key topics include the crisis of loneliness among young men and the role of secularism in relationship breakdowns. Faye shares insights on the unique challenges faced by trans individuals and the nuances of love, identity, and compassion in a divided society.
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Exile from Love
- Shon Faye's relationship with a cisgender, heterosexual man ended due to differing views on marriage and children.
- This breakup led her to explore the concept of love as an institution and the feeling of exile from it.
Modern Love
- The concept of romantic love, as we understand it, is relatively recent, only about 200 years old.
- Historically, love and marriage were separate, with idealized love often portrayed as adulterous.
Love as an Institution
- The institution of love is shaped by societal forces like the state, marriage, family, and heteronormativity.
- This creates a sense of exile for those who don't fit the mold, including those within those structures.