The Partnership Podcast Sexual Currency: How Tiny Investments Create Better Sex in Long-Term Relationships
In this candid and intimate episode, Lauren and Trey explore the idea of sexual currency and how consistent deposits into a partner's sexual bank account can transform intimacy in long-term relationships. They share the story of a magical sexual encounter they had the night before and talk about why it was only possible because Trey had been investing in Lauren's sexual bank account for the past 4 to 6 weeks.
They revisit the rough menstrual cycle documented earlier in the season and talk about the way Lauren has been shedding an old version of herself. Trey’s patience, curiosity, and willingness to give her the space she needs have helped her feel more attracted, more connected, and more open to erotic exploration.
Together they break down the specific investments that made the difference. Curious questions. Protecting Lauren’s alone time. Mutual masturbation and how they make it work. Words of affirmation. Compliments. Acts of service, including Trey laundering Lauren’s period underwear. And the impact of Trey not complaining, sulking, or pressuring Lauren when her capacity for sex shifted.
They also share a recent moment where Trey offered Lauren feedback and she tried a new technique of listening as a friend instead of as someone who needed to defend herself. That shift made a deposit in Trey’s sexual bank account and created more emotional space and helped deepen their connection.
Lauren and Trey talk about how when women say they do not want sex - they are talking about the boring kind of sex. The type of sex women actually want is sex that feels safe, secure, connected, and adventurous. They describe why last night’s sex is the kind most couples dream about and how it becomes possible through emotional investment, clear communication, and trust.
Lauren also shares her favorite Maude vibrator, the VIBE: https://getmaude.com/SEFY?q=vibe-personal-massager
If you want to learn how to make meaningful deposits into your partner's sexual bank account, you can request a free consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
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Ideal for couples in long-term partnerships who want deeper intimacy, more desire, and better sex.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.