Ever looked around your post-divorce life and thought, “Who even am I without that man-child?” Same. In this episode, Diana and I peel back the layers of Christian programming, people-pleasing trauma responses, and overfunctioning-for-Jesus syndrome to tackle the real question: Who am I when I’m not trying to fix someone else’s broken masculinity?
Diana and I discuss identity loss in marriage, the process of deprogramming, and how to reclaim your God-given essence one small boundary and one journal prompt at a time. With warmth and truth bombs, this conversation is basically free therapy.
Key Takeaways:
- Identity Loss Is Real: Many Christian women completely lose their sense of self trying to uphold “biblical” marriage roles that were never their actual calling.
- Trauma Rewires Your Brain: Survival mode builds false identities. Safe spaces let you rebuild your real one.
- Boundaries ≠ Being Mean: Saying “no” is how you say “yes” to yourself. And Jesus had them too. #JustSaying
- If You Always Say “I Don’t Know”: You might be disconnected from your identity. Start by asking, “What do I need right now?”
- You Deserve Good Things: Not because you’re perfect, but because you’re a beloved child of God. Period. No asterisks.
- Mothering Yourself Is a Game-Changer: Want to be a better mom, friend, or human? Start with being a better mom to you.
Read the full show notes, get the journal questions, and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
- Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
- Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for any Christian woman interested in 10Xing their self-development progress.
- Check out Diana’s podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast.
- Go get a copy of Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend.