Quixote writes:

It's odd to me how bad San Francisco is, when other large cities like New York or Paris are basically utopias.

But just a few comments down, Lasagna says:

I despise (I'm choosing that word carefully) [New York City]. I still commute there every day, and I can't stand it – the broken infrastructure, the horrible smells, the $14 for a yogurt and coffee in the morning, the massive crowds of unpleasant people (how could we NOT be? We're walking through an open sewer). There's a litany of other things that keep me permanently angry and depressed (just the thought of how much earlier I would have started a family if I didn't live there….) I find it decadent, selfish, shallow – pick your bad adjective. I'll stop now.

Where I live now is nice. We have a town we can walk to, a lawn for the kids to play on and me to mow, we cook at home, we have enough room for our family to live and the kids to get exercise, even indoors. There's no WAY I'm giving that up so I can live in an apartment again, all so NYC can squeeze MORE people into its area.

If I had my way, we'd be much further away from the metro area than we are now, in a bigger, cheaper home with more land. But that isn't possible; NYC is where my job is, and that's that. Fine. But let's not make things worse, and make NYC (and San Francisco, and DC, and Boston) even MORE indispensable generators of jobs. And please don't think for a second that there aren't sizable numbers of people like me, and like you, who do not want these things for our families […] Thanks for letting me rant. You should have seen the first draft of this thing. Twice as long, Scott. A litany of woes and anger.

This would be fascinating if it weren't so predictable. One person describes NYC as "basically utopia", and another person can't stop ranting about how much he hates it and is glad to have escaped it.

In the same vein, from Cerastes:

"I think neurotypical people usually underestimate how bad cities are for people with noise sensitivities, anxiety, purity intuitions, or just a need for nature and green things in their environment, …"

THIS!!! A MILLION TIMES THIS!!

The concept of living somewhere that isn't green is literally nauseating to me, and the idea of a place that isn't teeming with wild animals feels like suffocating. My house is in as wild a place as possible given my commute, budget, and region, and almost every room has a fully planted vivarium with an animal (as well as my office).

The amount of urbanist triumphalist crap drives me up the wall, as if these people cannot see why someone would not want to live in conditions far inferior to even low-quality zoos, or why someone might need to balance a job in a city with such desires.

Being 100% honest, I actually feel like there's something genuinely wrong with people who don't feel the need to spend time in nature, especially if they also lack pets. They're like sterile androids in some sort of weird dystopia, utterly cut off from life.

090: The Awakened Family (part 1)