And Then It Hit Me with Cory Allen #346 Bringing Kindness Back
Jan 5, 2026
Living as a positive role model is essential for authentic social change. The host discusses why top-down persuasion often fails and highlights the pitfalls of polarization and judgment in society. He connects hyper-individualism to increased division and suffering. Change, he argues, emerges from leading by example rather than through arguments. By embodying patience, compassion, and curiosity, individuals can inspire others and promote a kinder mindset. The journey of cultural change is gradual, emphasizing the impact of incremental influence.
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Why Arguing Rarely Changes Minds
- Change rarely happens by arguing someone out of their beliefs.
- Deep beliefs are front-loaded software that resist intellectual persuasion.
A Troll Stopped After Empathy
- Cory responded to a troll by empathizing and saying, "I'm sorry that you're losing your hair."
- The troll stopped, showing criticism often reveals personal insecurity.
Hyper-Individualism Fuels Division
- Hyper-individualism and identity branding amplify judgment and separation.
- Cultural pressure to be a distinct 'brand' increases suffering and polarized conflict.