Writing Your Legacy Letter, with Blake Brewer

Do you want to write the perfect letter to your kids, but don’t know exactly where to start, what to say, or how to share your heart best?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nes6G6sX8bk Legacy Letters solve this problem. Blake Brewer is on a mission to help 1 million dads write at least one well-written, meaningful, lasting Legacy Letter to their children. Today, we’re digging into the importance of our parent’s words, how to prepare your heart and mind to write this letter, the three things that everyone needs to hear from their Dad and Mom, and how to ask forgiveness as a parent. So if you want to share the words that best communicate your heart… tune in now! Table of contentsWhy Write Down Your LegacyThe Legacy Letter that Started it AllHelping 1 Million DadsCrafting Your Legacy LetterThe Parent “Wound”Asking ForgivenessThe Most Important Components of Your Legacy LetterConnect with BlakeAbout Blake BrewerBook A Strategy Call Why Write Down Your Legacy Writing a legacy letter, as we’ll explore, is an opportunity to create a tremendous impact in the lives of your children. It’s actually important for the same reason life insurance is important on a security level–because one day, you won’t be around. And like life insurance, a legacy letter can help your children move forward with as few obstacles as possible.  Lucas and I wrote legacy letters for our children after my near-death experience a few years ago. At the time, we wondered: What if we don’t have all the decades ahead that we hope for? How would we be able to communicate all the most important thoughts and lessons to our daughters? A legacy letter is your opportunity to leave a tangible piece of yourself and your wisdom with your children and loved ones. That way, no matter what the future brings, you can be confident that all of your most important thoughts will make it into your children’s hands. It’s a powerful tool for families, especially for families looking to build a robust, multi-generational structure for the future. The Legacy Letter that Started it All [5:44] Our guest, Blake Brewer, shares his own experience of loss, and how that led to his role in helping families create their legacy letters. After his father’s passing, which was incredibly sudden, Blake’s mother gave him the letter his father had written for him. [10:43] “Even before I finished the letter, I felt so loved, that my dad would take the time to write this letter. I don’t know what he gave up, what he sacrificed, what TV show he didn’t watch; but my dad took the time to write down his thoughts and feelings about us, and gave some great life advice. The last line of this letter, only God could have allowed my dad to write it. My dad wrote, ‘As you follow Christ, you’ll often find yourself in the minority here on Earth, but I can assure you in Heaven, you’ll be in the majority…’” The words were the exact comfort that Blake needed at that moment and helped him to begin processing his grief. In fact, it helped him to process his grief in a healthy way, thanks to his father’s words. He says it was that letter that changed his life.  [12:05] “My dad had life insurance, so I’m grateful for that as well. My mom didn’t have to go to work, our life stayed the same, and I’m thankful for that. But this letter is worth just as much as the money that my dad provided for us.” Helping 1 Million Dads A few years ago, Blake decided to write his own letter to his children, so that they would have something of him when they needed it most. But when he sat down to start writing, he saw how difficult it was. He had plenty of ideas to put onto the page, but organizing them into the right words was hard. Other fathers he had talked to over the years, who resonated with Blake’s story, had also found the process difficult.  At the same time, God brought several other men into his life that received letters from their fathers.