“I had known the pain, and survived it. It only remained for me to give it voice, to share it for use, that the pain not be wasted.”
Audre Lorde
The experience of violence is shaped by shame and silence. We’ll hear stories about how silence and shame define the experience of violence for everyone involved: the victim, the perpetrator and the bystander, with a special focus on white bystanders and racist violence. We explore how violence is dehumanizing, and leads survivors to blame themselves. We also hear about the forces that make it difficult for victims and bystanders to speak up.This hour long show is about the power of overcoming shame and silence by telling the truth about violence. Through compelling stories and expert reflection, we explore how finding voice and bearing witness can become part of recovery for both individuals and communities.
Tips & Strategies for Confronting Violence
Listen to Stories From the Episode
Resources
From Our Guests
- Carl Russell; No Telling Aloud: Keeping Secrets That Hurt
- Susan Brison; Aftermath: Violence and the ReMaking of the Self
- Jim Gilligan; Violence: Reflections on a National Epidemic
- Jim Gilligan; Preventing Violence: Prospects for Tomorrow
- Martha Minow; Between Vengeance and Forgiveness: Facing History After Genocide and Mass Violence
- Martha Minow; Breaking the Cycles of Hatred: Memory, Law, and Repair
- Daryl Fort, TEDx 2014; “Safe Communities Require Empathetic Courage”
Further Reading & Listening
General Resources:
- Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
- Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman, MD
- Healing the Soul after Religious Abuse: The Dark Heaven of Recovery by Mikele Rauch
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
- When Violence Begins at Home: A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Ending Domestic Abuse by J. Wilson
- The Little Book of Restorative Justice by Howard Zehr
On Racism and Racist Violence:
- Chokehold: Policing Black Men by Paul Butler
- Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America by Michael Eric Dyson
- Tacit Racism by Waverly Duck and Anne Warfield Rawls
- How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
- My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem, M.S.W.
- Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience by Sheila Wise Rowe
- The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health: Navigate an Unequal System, Learn Tools for Emotional Wellness, and Get the Help you Deserve by Rheeda Walker, PhD
- Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson
- 1619 from the New York Times
On Adult Sexual Violence:
- Dear Sister: Letters from Survivors of Sexual Violence edited by Lisa Factora-Borchers
- The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, by Wendy Maltz, CSW
- Surviving the Silence — Black Women’s Stories of Rape by Charlotte Piercebaker
- Unpinned: Breaking the Hold of Sexual Assault and Abuse Written by a Male Survivor by Grant Watkins
On Childhood Violence:
- I Never Told Anyone – Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse edited by Ellen Bass
- Hush: Moving From Silence to Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse by Nicole Braddock Bromley
- Children Who See Too Much: Lessons from the Child Witness to Violence Project by Betsy McAlister
- Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal by Donna Jackson Nakazawa
Helpful Organizations
- Battered Women’s Justice Project
- Black Lives Matter
- Black Mental Wellness
- Black Visions Collective
- Campaign Zero
- Color of Change
- Communities United Against Police Brutality
- Equality Now
- Futures Without Violence
- INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence
- Me Too Movement
- NAACP
- Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
- Reclaim the Block
- Safe Horizon
- The Anti-Violence Project
- The Bail Project
- The Breathe Network
- The National Child Traumatic Stress Network
- The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
- The Northwest Network
- Womankind
Related Safe Space Radio Episodes
Breaking Silence about Violence:
- Nubar Alexanian, The Scars of Silence
- Susan Brison, The Aftermath of Sexual Violence
- Nancy Kassam-Adams, Pediatric Medical Trauma
- Lawrence Langer, Holocaust Survivor Testimonies
- Carl Russell, Breaking the Silence
- Jessica Stern, Trauma, Fear and Denial
Child Abuse:
- Vincent Felitti, Obesity’s Link to Child Abuse and Child Abuse and Physical Health 25 Years Later
- Brie Maselli, Emotional Abuse of Children in Violent Homes
- Governor Paul LePage, Childhood Domestic Violence
- Vernon Wiehe, Sibling Abuse
Domestic Violence:
- Julie Colpitts, Domestic Violence (Part 1, Part 2)
- Cathy Plourde, The Role of Health Care Providers in Preventing Domestic Violence
- Drew Wing, Reducing Interpersonal Violence/
Male Sexual Violence:
- Daryl Fort, Male Sexual Violence and Rape Culture (part 1) and Speaking Up to Sexism and Violence (Part 2)
Military Sexual Trauma:
- Cynthia Enloe, The Experience of Women in War
- Kathy Russin, Sexual Trauma and the VA
- Kate Weber, Reporting and Retaliation
Racism and Violence:
- Maria Girouard, Esther Attean, and Stephanie Bailey, Breaking the Silence
- Debby Irving, Waking Up White (Part 1, Part 2)
- Paul Marcus, The System of Racism (Part 1, Part 2)
- Peggy McIntosh, Unpacking White Privilege (Part 1, Part 2)
- Sandy White Hawk, Intergenerational Trauma
- Special on Talking to White Kids about Race and Racism
Recovery and Healing from Violence:
- Dave Emerson, Yoga for Trauma Survivors
- Deirdre Fay, Trauma, attachment, and the Body
- Janina Fisher, Trauma and Dissociation
- Celia Grand, Trauma and EMDR Therapy
- Judy Herman, Group Therapy for Trauma Survivors
- Wendy Maltz, Sexual Healing
- Pat Ogden, Trauma and the Body
- Bessel Van Der Kolk, Trauma and the Brain
Torture:
- Sheila Cassidy, Torture
- Alice, The Challenge of Speaking up for Asylum
- Joanna, Escaping From Violence
Working with violent offenders:
- Lundy Bancroft, The Psychology of Abusive Men
- Deb Dana, Sex Offenders
- Mike, Imprisonment and Life Transformation (Part 1, Part 2)
- Restorative Justice
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