Scott Turansky - Why Rewards and Punishments Don't Work

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Your child has disobeyed you for the tenth time and it's only 9 AM. How do you get your children to do what you tell them to do? Maybe you've tried rewards and punishments but find they aren't working as well as they used to. Dr. Scott Turansky will fill your parenting toolbox with exactly what you need to reach the heart of your child effectively and thus change behavior. This is an episode you won't want to miss if you have been frustrated with your child's behavior or attitude lately. In today's conversation, you'll learn:

2:25 What is meant by the word "heart"? Is it the same as emotions?

4:55 How to be firm with your children while maintaining the love in your relationship

10:30 Training yourself to become a firmer parent

12:28 When correcting your child, try this instead of a time-out

17:50 How to “take a break” even with your teen

19:39 What if my child is totally unmotivated to do the right thing?

22:53 Start with spiritual development

26:28 How to think positively about your child when they are not cooperating

Dr. Scott Turansky is the co-founder of the National Center for Biblical Parenting. He holds two master's degrees from Western Seminary and his doctorate from Fuller. He and his wife Carrie have 5 children and 11 grandchildren. He’s been a pastor for more than 40 years and has trained over 400 parent coaches. He’s written several books including "Motivate Your Child" and the "Christian Parenting Handbook".

Learn about Dr. Turansky and the book we talked about on today's episode, Parenting is Heart Work at biblicalparenting.org

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