541: Spare the Pity Party; My Life is Just Restarting | Feedback Friday
Jul 30, 2021
A listener grapples with moving forward after losing their spouse and child in a tragic accident, seeking ways to escape the pity often extended by new acquaintances. The conversation dives deep into the complexities of grief, emphasizing the importance of sharing personal trauma while retaining one's identity. Other themes include the nuances of rekindling relationships affected by mental health challenges and the relevance of gratitude in everyday life. Personal growth and understanding take center stage as they navigate their new realities.
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Tragic Loss and New Beginnings
A woman lost her spouse and child in a car accident and later had another child via IVF.
She's now struggling to share this story with new people without being defined by the tragedy.
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Owning Your Story
Accept that people will have varying reactions to your story, some may pity you.
Share your story and acknowledge its intensity, inviting further conversation if desired.
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Navigating Difficult Conversations
Express your concern about being seen only as a victim.
Give others permission to treat you normally by acknowledging the difficulty of these conversations.
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Grief Day By Day provides supportive readings and exercises to help individuals move through life after loss, one day at a time. It includes 365 daily reflections, weekly themes, and 52 healing exercises to facilitate healing and create a life where peace and gratitude can coexist with grief.
Four years ago, you lost your spouse and child in a tragic car crash that you barely survived. Now, with a supportive partner and a toddler by your side, you're determined to move on with your life. Unfortunately, it's hard to meet new people who can see past what you've endured without pitying you. How can you truly enter your next chapter when well-meaning but oversympathizing strangers keep reminding you of your last one? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!
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Trying to move on from the loss of your family in a car accident years ago is difficult when everyone new you meet wants to throw you a pity party. How can you become more than the suffering sum of your tragic past's parts?
You and your fiancé called it quits when she had a hallucinatory episode, wound up in the hospital, and came out with a bipolar disorder diagnosis. But you've each spent the past year coming to terms with who you are and you've considered getting back together. Could this work, or should you consider it a relationship that's sailed?
A company hired you for one thing, then it turned out they needed you for something else, and their needs aren’t in alignment with your interests. Should you express your dissatisfaction to your boss, hope your next project is more to your liking, or just start looking for a new job?
You've discovered that the work you love to do isn't the same as the subject you loved learning about at university. Should you feel guilty or ashamed for not using your master's degree, even though you absolutely adore your current, but completely unrelated position?
How do you invite your parents' best friends to your wedding without them bringing their disruptive, social misfit adult child?
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