Us In Mind: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Marriage: Ted Lowe
Sep 5, 2023
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Ted Lowe, author who revolutionizes marriages, discusses the impact of thoughts on marriage. The importance of ranking your spouse positively is highlighted, along with reshaping negative thoughts. Overcoming difficult seasons and appreciating your spouse are explored. Changing your thoughts can ultimately transform your marriage, as seen in a powerful personal story.
Happy couples ranked their spouse higher in every category than their spouse ranked themselves in a study on marital satisfaction, highlighting the importance of focusing on the positive qualities of your spouse for a happier marriage.
Our brains are naturally wired to focus on the negative, so rewiring our thoughts to be more positive can lead to positive changes in our marriage.
Deep dives
The importance of positive illusion in happy marriages
Happy couples ranked their spouse higher in every category than their spouse ranked themselves in a study on marital satisfaction. This positive illusion, focusing on the positive qualities of your spouse and not the negative, can create a happier marriage.
The power of rewiring the brain
Our brains are naturally wired to focus on the negative, so rewiring our thoughts to be more positive can lead to positive changes in our marriage. By intentionally choosing to think positively about our spouse and focusing on their strengths, we can improve our relationship.
The role of communication and seeking help
Communication is important in transforming marriages. If there are deep wounds and hurts, it's important to seek help from a counselor or trusted third party. It's crucial to have honest conversations about the reality of the situation and work towards healing and growth together.
Could the way you're thinking about your spouse be shaping your marriage in ways you've never imagined? Author Ted Lowe helps revolutionize your marriage…starting with your mind.
The only common denominator in couples that reported the highest level of marital satisfaction—they were basically given a spousal report card and told, “Rank your spouse,” in categories like generosity, kindness, and loyalty; and the ones that were happiest were the ones who ranked their spouse highest in every category than their spouse had ranked themselves. So, I think it’s made up of, you know, “If you could only see you like I see you!” -- Ted Lowe