Life gets bumpy at times. We as humans make mistakes, we cause harm, things can get awkward or uncomfortable. This doesn’t change when you learn new relational skills. We never stop having those moments in our intimate relationships. We just get better at sitting with the awkward and imperfect.

In this episode, I chat with Gina Senarighi about what happens when we bring the observational self onboard and practice being in the awkward with our partners. We discuss perfectionism, creativity, pleasure and play, shifting from judgment to curiosity, and making the most of things versus going into a sulky place.

The lesson Gina and I both have learned in our relationships and in our work is that there is no perfect relational tool to end conflict or mistake-making. The real transformational practice is getting comfortable with discomfort and in staying present.

RESOURCES:

Get to know more about Gina Senarighi at HeyGina.com

Listen to Gina Senarighi dish out relationship advice on The Swoon Podcast

Learn more about Gina’s online relationship course at SwoonWithUs.com

Check out Gina’s new relationship workbook, Love More, Fight Less

If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining one of Rebecca’s online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self-care. Learn more at connectfulness.com/offerings

Also, please check out our sister podcast, Why Does My Partner.

This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

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