The Jordan Harbinger Show 181: How to Stop Blaming Other People | Deep Dive
Apr 4, 2019
Gabriel Mizrahi, a writer and speaker, joins to unravel the common impulse to blame others while advocating for personal accountability. They dive into why externalizing blame hinders control over one's life and how excessive self-blame can be equally damaging. Mizrahi introduces the Accountability Spectrum, offering a path between these extremes. The conversation also highlights empathy's role in fostering accountability, practical strategies for better relationships, and the transformative power of owning one's actions.
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Blame's Toxic Nature
- Blame is a human tendency to avoid discomfort in difficult situations.
- It deprives us of agency and creates dysfunction, stopping growth and progress.
Externalization vs. Internalization
- Blame externalizes discomfort by projecting it onto others or situations.
- Internalization, or self-blame, is equally toxic, burdening oneself with full responsibility.
Self-Blame Backfires
- Jordan Harbinger initially tried self-blaming in a blame-heavy work environment.
- This made him a target for blame without solving the root problems.