Straight White American Jesus It's in the Code ep 145: “You’re Just Being Selfish”
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May 7, 2025 This discussion dives into the troubling tactics used by high-control Christianity to discredit faith deconstructionists, particularly through the accusation of selfishness. It explores how this claim serves to enforce community control and silence dissenting voices. The conversation also highlights the psychological manipulations, such as gaslighting, faced by those questioning their faith, revealing the emotional toll of leaving rigid belief systems. Lastly, it navigates the complex interplay between self-care and societal expectations regarding selfishness.
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Selfishness Accusation as Last Resort
- The accusation "you're just being selfish" is a final, desperate tactic to discredit faith deconstructionists.
- It masks high-control Christianity's bad faith, coercion, and avoids addressing actual theological problems.
Conditioning for Gaslighting and Control
- High-control Christianity conditions adherents to distrust their own instincts and desires.
- This makes them vulnerable to gaslighting and dependent on religious authorities.
Lasting Trauma from Religious Conditioning
- Many former members struggle to identify or trust their desires due to deep conditioning.
- This trauma causes guilt, anxiety, and difficulty in decision-making long after leaving.
