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Aug 1, 2025 
In this discussion, Kate Lindsay, a co-host of Slate’s ICYMI and a writer for the newsletter Embedded, dives into the fallout from a dating app’s data breach. She highlights the tension between women's empowerment and safety in online spaces. Lindsay explores the rise of digital whisper networks that offer community support but also raise issues of trust and accountability. The conversation touches on the evolving dynamics of dating in a tech-dominated world, illustrating the struggle between safety and the dangers of unverified accusations.
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Purpose of Tea as a Whisper Network
- Tea was created as a centralized app version of women's whisper networks to aggregate red and green flags about men in dating.
- It aimed to make safer dating decisions by combining community input with background checks and photo verifications.
Tea App Data Breach Exposes Users
- Tea was hacked resulting in exposure of 72,000 selfies and documents of women, many posted on sites like 4chan and Twitter.
- This breach revealed metadata that was used to map and harass its users, showcasing risks of trusting tech for safety.
Suspicion and Heterofatalism in Dating
- Setting alerts for men's names breeds suspicion and promotes an antagonistic mindset in relationships.
- This reflects a cultural trend termed 'heterofatalism,' where people anticipate inevitable negative discoveries about partners.