Why You Can’t Get Over Your Ex, with Breakup & Relationship Coach Niki Van Houten

Why do breakups hit men and women so differently? And what does real healing actually look like?

In this episode, Jake sits down with relationship coach Niki Van Houten for a raw, revealing conversation about heartbreak, emotional maturity, and the evolution of modern masculinity.

They dive deep into the science and soul of breakups—why women often grieve earlier, why men stay distracted longer, and how both can learn to process pain without shame.

Together, they unpack:

- Why most men avoid feeling their grief (and what to do instead)- How to support your friends through breakups (without giving terrible advice)

- Why it’s okay to not be “fully healed” before dating again

- The difference between masculine & feminine energy—and how to balance them

- How to consciously uncouple with love, respect, and growth

- What every man should ask himself before trying to “glow up” post-breakup

If you’re navigating the end of a relationship, or supporting someone who is, this one’s for you.

It’s not just about getting through heartbreak—it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be on the other side of it.