Beyond Coding Insecurities, Judgement, Behaviour and Self-Care with Alex Østergaard
Insecurities, everyone has them, but not everyone deals with them the same. And interestingly enough, behaviour and insecurities can originate from experiences you’ve had as a child.
This is one of the many takeaways I had from chatting with Alex Østergaard on this episode.
With an interest in coaching myself, it was a real pleasure to learn from his perspective and how he does things. Active listening, zero judgement and self-compassion being a few ingredients to his success.
Enjoy! 🎙
Connect with Alex Østergaard:
https://linkedin.com/in/alex-life-coach
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Big shoutout to Xebia for making this episode possible!
OUTLINE:
00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:38 - Patrick's managers
00:01:42 - Resources to help with coaching
00:03:27 - How to build up trust
00:04:40 - No Judgement
00:06:03 - Criticism and drive
00:06:48 - Self-compassion
00:09:04 - Feeling of being not good enough
00:12:55 - Self-care
00:15:36 - Getting out of a slope
00:18:09 - Control how you feel
00:20:55 - Alex's LinkedIn profile is amazing
00:21:48 - Big Tech Tunnel Vision
00:24:18 - Toxic relationship with your company
00:25:50 - Weight of gold
00:26:47 - Fulfilment vs. compensation
00:28:52 - Self doubt and trusting yourself
00:32:38 - Patrick's past insecurities joining Xebia
00:35:38 - None of us know what we're doing
00:36:24 - What people think of you
00:38:26 - Fear of judgement
00:39:19 - Judgement from the podcast
00:40:30 - Asking for help
00:41:41 - 5 types of imposter syndrome
00:43:28 - Pride
00:45:37 - Behaviour explained through the past
00:47:30 - No one is to blame
00:49:00 - It's not right or wrong