Connor Beaton, founder of ManTalks and author of "Men's Work," discusses the pressing issues facing men today. He highlights the imbalances in modern dating fueled by social media and the pressures that come with societal beauty standards. Connor also addresses the failures of traditional therapy in helping men and advocates for more effective, connection-oriented solutions. The conversation dives into the complexities of masculinity, emotional safety, and how personal challenges can motivate success while examining the evolving landscape of relationships in a digital age.
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Women’s Higher Dating Standards
Women tend to have higher standards than men in dating preferences, often seeking partners 'up and to the right' in status or looks.
This disparity, combined with modern narratives pushing women not to settle, creates a mismatch between expectations and reality.
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Men’s Social Circles Signal Status
Men’s social environment and the men they associate with act as a status signal to women.
Surrounding yourself with higher-quality men can elevate your perceived status and attractiveness.
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Therapy’s Failure with Men
Traditional therapy often treats men like defective women, failing to address men’s unique needs.
Men need solution-focused approaches that honor their burden of performance, not just encouragement to be vulnerable.
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0:00 Intro 0:42 *“Women are delusional and men are disenfranchised” 5:40 *What men and women settle for 7:06 *Men being disenfranchised 11:27 Other men as a sign of status 13:13 Academia ignored men’s problems 15:00 *Why therapy is failing men 22:09 *Therapy must take male performance into account 23:01 *Therapy has been infiltrated by feminist ideology 25:01 The myth of male vulnerability 27:19 The two types of men women see 30:46 The impact of pornography 33:15 *Behavioral Activation Therapy 36:50 *The effectiveness of SSRIs 39:09 *Brotherhoods as antidepressants 39:39 The Jungian shadow 42:51 *Men slut-shaming women 47:35 *Why men care about women’s past 50:56 *Women test men for signs of safety 55:24 Psychology is based on evolution 56:50 Discover the type of safety your woman wants 59:19 *The patriarchy virus 1:05:05 *“Feminism is matriarchy hidden behind a veil of equality” 1:06:56 Shaming as a manipulation tool 1:10:24 *Can hypergamy be adjusted? 1:15:17 Disenfranchisement due to gender 1:17:30 Is masculinity a social construct? 1:20:27 *Social media has disrupted our psychology 1:23:28 Wars will be fought in intersubjective reality 1:28:14 *Do men or women cheat more? 1:34:38 Social media and coaching program
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