S1E9: What It Means to Be Yourself: Gender & Identity with Dr. Vanessa Lacey

In this episode of Becoming You – The Podcast, John Fleming sits down with Dr. Vanessa Lacey, a psychotherapist, educator, parent, and one of Ireland’s leading voices in trans advocacy.

Vanessa shares her deeply personal story - from growing up in 1960s Waterford, through years of survival and silence, to finding her truth and stepping into a life of authenticity, compassion, and service.

This is a conversation about identity, family, healing, and the quiet courage it takes to live in alignment with who you are, even when the world doesn’t make it easy.

Together, John and Vanessa explore the human side of gender, mental health, and the journey of becoming

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

• Vanessa’s story of growing up in 1970s Waterford,
• The emotional and physical toll of suppressing her gender identity - and the impact it had on her education and mental health
• How psychotherapy supported her begin to understand her truth and choose life
• Vanessa’s journey of transitioning her gender to align with her nature
• Her work in gender identity advocacy, education, and family support — and why listening and language matter
• The lifelong process of becoming and how that relates to our identity

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Connect with Dr. Vanessa Lacey:

Website: www.gendercare.ie

LinkedIn: Dr. Vanessa Lacey: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-vanessa-lacey-8525b335/?originalSubdomain=ie

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