How to Become the Man She’s Looking For | Why Women Are Evolving Faster & What Men Can Do Now

What do emotionally available men do differently in sex and dating? Trey interviews Lauren about how straight men can unlearn old patterns, attract real connection, and become the sexual partners they truly want to be.

Trey shares the story of a pivotal rejection that sparked his growth journey and gets honest about his disappointment in the questions men have been asking at Lauren’s recent Soho House events. While the women show up with curiosity and self-awareness, many of the straight men seem stuck in meta-level thinking—and Trey doesn’t hold back.

They also discuss:

– Why preparation is more powerful than performance

– How to identify the wounds you’re bringing into dating

– What green flags look like when you’re actually ready for partnership

– How to communicate wants and needs without pressure

The episode wraps with a playful role-play using Lauren’s M.E.A.N.S.™ tool—a framework designed to help partners talk about sex with more clarity and connection:

M – Motivation: What’s driving my desire for this experience?

E – Edges & Boundaries: What’s okay, what’s not, and where am I unsure?

A – Aftercare: What kind of support might I need afterward?

N – Needs: What do I need emotionally, physically, energetically?

S – Safety: Do I feel physically and emotionally safe to engage?

Whether you’re a man hoping to date more intentionally—or someone who loves one—this episode offers honest insight, practical tools, and a whole lot of heart.

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About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.