The Tragedy of Future People Pleasing

A silly chat about overalls sparked an important discussion between Jeni and Sandy on the trap of “people pleasing” in work and life. 

Women are conditioned to value the thoughts and opinions of others above their own, and this can have negative implications for their happiness, their business’s success, and their willingness to take risks, build wealth, and take on meaningful work.

The hosts know from experience that it is unrealistic to expect everyone to like you and the work you are doing all the time—so in this episode, Sandy and Jeni offer a healthier way to think about criticism, supporters, and success.

Also, if you want to wear overalls, wear them with joy!

Here’s a peek at what else we discuss:

• The focus of today’s episode: applying the concept of future people pleasing to your business. 
• An overview of the ways in which women have been socialized, and the negative impact that this can have on the way we conduct business.
• A question to ask yourself, which will help you determine your reasons for doing (or not doing) something.
• The tradeoffs that you have to accept as your business grows.
• Why everyone should read—and reread—Kevin Kelly’s 1000 True Fans essay. 
• How you should be thinking about criticism. 
• You cannot control what other people think and feel about you and your work, so rather focus on what you think and feel.
• Some of the tactics commonly used on social media that you should avoid.

Resources

• "1000 True Fans" by Kevin Kelly
• Marvelous
• Marvelous on Instagram and Twitter

This week’s Joy: 

Jeni and Sandy share how overalls bring them joy. It symbolizes the importance of letting yourself wear what you want to wear and do what you want to do!

This week’s Hustle: 

Kevin Kelly’s essay, “1,000 True Fans” as a timeless guide that helps you think about your body of work.

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