Call Her Daddy Your Survival Guide to Dating Apps
Mar 12, 2023
Esteemed couples therapist Esther Perel joins to discuss the emotional turmoil of dating apps. She explains how these platforms commodify people, leading to feelings of rejection and disappointment. Esther emphasizes the importance of rethinking first dates as explorations rather than interviews and encourages cultivating friendships outside dating. With clever insights, she shares tips for fostering intimacy through shared experiences, spontaneity, and storytelling, while addressing the paradox of connection and loneliness in the digital age.
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Apps Turn Dating Into Emotional Commerce
- Dating apps turn people into commodities and force constant self-evaluation.
- Esther Perel calls this 'emotional capitalism' and says it creates a swallow-and-spit feeling.
Use Friends And Social Events To Meet People
- Don't rely only on apps; maintain organic social routes like friends and group events.
- Take dates into real-life social contexts so you don't become at the mercy of the algorithm.
Don't Make A Partner Your Whole Identity
- Viewing a partner as the single source of wholeness fuels desperation and narrows perspective.
- Perel urges valuing family, friends, and other relationships alongside romantic search.
