John Kim, an expert and author of the best-selling book 'Single On Purpose', shares insights from his extensive journey of intentional singlehood. He challenges negative perceptions of being single, urging listeners to embrace personal growth through self-discovery. The discussion highlights the difference between our authentic selves and societal expectations, encourages exploring new passions, and reflects on recovery from toxic relationships. John emphasizes that singlehood can be a powerful time for cultivating creativity and building meaningful connections.
Embracing singlehood as a transformative opportunity fosters personal growth and the ability to connect deeply with oneself.
Developing routines and engaging in joyful activities during singlehood builds confidence and attracts supportive, like-minded connections.
Deep dives
Embracing Singlehood as Growth
There is a prevalent misconception that being single equates to being incomplete or defective, a notion perpetuated by societal norms and media narratives. In reality, being single can provide fertile ground for personal growth and self-discovery. The focus on singlehood as an opportunity to build a meaningful life underneath the stigma emphasizes the importance of connecting with oneself during this time. This mindset shift encourages individuals to embrace their journey, highlighting that solitude can be empowering and transformative.
The Importance of Authenticity
Capable of living authentically, individuals are encouraged to identify and listen to their 'solid self' rather than their 'pseudo self,' which seeks external validation. This distinction allows for personal development, as one explores their true desires and needs across all facets of life, including work, relationships, and personal interests. By consciously choosing to engage in actions that reflect who they genuinely are, individuals can break free from societal pressures and form a solid foundation for their future selves. This authentic living is a stepping stone to a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
Building Momentum and Community
Taking proactive steps to engage in activities, develop routines, and cultivate relationships is crucial for building confidence and a sense of purpose. The narrative underscores the importance of getting involved in pursuits that spark joy, such as fitness, hobbies, or community engagements, particularly during singlehood. Emphasizing a mindset of exploration and discovery can lead to stronger connections with others and a sense of belonging. As individuals immerse themselves in their passions and interests, they naturally attract like-minded people, creating a community that supports their journey.
Based on The Angry Therapist’s best-selling book, “Single On Purpose”, the podcast is a collective space. But instead of being guest-driven, this podcast is host driven. Rotating hosts/experts 3 times a week to help singles handrails for their singlehood journey. I am your host John Kim and for the first episode, I will be sharing my long stretch of singlehood on purpose. Don't forget to stay tuned for a "Single on Purpose" story at the end of every episode.
Single on Purpose is created by The Angry Therapist, John Kim, who will also be in the rotation of experts. We are starting the podcast with 20 experts across the wellness space.
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