255 | Mastering Neutrality: Practicing Neutrality Means Letting Go of Expectations, Not Emotions

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I continue exploring the essential role of neutrality in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). I unpack how neutrality balances with congruence—honoring our genuine emotional responses while avoiding expectations that could pressure or influence a child. I share real-life examples and listener questions that highlight the delicate line between being authentic and unintentionally guiding a child’s behavior.

I also explain why even subtle expressions of approval or disapproval can shift a child’s motivation from internal to external. By staying emotionally congruent without attaching expectations, we preserve the safety and trust within the therapeutic relationship. This episode is a reminder about how neutrality strengthens the therapeutic relationship.

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