Parenting is a tough and ever-evolving task, but it is also a powerful way to share our light with others.
Michelle Obama encourages individuals to embrace their doubt and fear, counteracting societal messages by being open about their struggles and refusing to define oneself based on external expectations.
Deep dives
Parenting Challenges and Fears
As parents, one of the biggest fears is whether we are messing up our kids. Michelle Obama discusses the constant worry of being too lenient or too strict, wondering if comforting during a tantrum will harm them in the long run. This fear is universal and even those without kids question their ability to be good parents. Parenting is a tough and ever-evolving task, but it is also a powerful way to share our light with others.
Dealing with Doubt and Fear
Michelle Obama acknowledges that doubt and fear are common experiences, not limited to women but also prevalent in men, although often not openly expressed. Society, especially for women and women of color, has historically placed signals suggesting inadequacy, affecting self-confidence. Michelle encourages individuals to embrace their doubt and fear, counteracting the societal messages by being open about their struggles and refusing to define oneself based on external expectations.
Creating Normalcy for Children in the White House
Michelle Obama opens up about her experiences raising Sasha and Malia in the White House, prioritizing their normalcy amidst a public spotlight. She emphasizes fostering independence, encouraging them to do tasks on their own, and not helicoptering over them. The Obamas ensured that their daughters learned vital life skills, from driving to doing chores, preparing them for life outside the White House. Despite the challenges and disruptions, Obama wanted her daughters to have a relatable childhood and sibling bond, lessons she hopes to impart beyond the White House.
Parenting is the focus of this conversation: Gayle opens up about how she approached raising her “favorite daughter” and “favorite son”, and Michelle discusses her fight to keep her daughters normal in the White House. (Spoiler: Driving lessons and dating are pretty tricky.) She also shares stories about watching the girls now that they’re launched and living together.